The Ontological War

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As with all increasing realself people, Ann and Graham in Sex, Lies, and Videotape express their current ontological thoughts and emotions through their sex lives. One example of their doing this is when they each say they are the most sexual when they are by themselves.
Ann tells her therapist:
Ann: I mean, I’m sure he probably [...]

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Quite a few people think sex is “just biological,” or “just physical,” or even “just chemical.” But as men and women increase their degrees of realself, they see that sex is actually linked inextricably to the realself.
Why is this? The main reason is probably that even though we can become alienated ontologically—we can fool ourselves [...]

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At this stage of their relationship, most people might not think a deep connection is developing between Ann and Graham in Sex, Lies, and Videotape. After all, she tells her therapist Graham is “interesting,” and that isn’t much to go on when considering the ontological depth of the relationship between two people.
But there were two [...]

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In the past, almost all the people who started increasing their degrees of realself did not know that the realself, realself-to-realself relationships, and realself life exist. These people were drawn forward by their wakening realselves, but consciously they didn’t have any idea what was ahead of them ontologically.
Ann, in Sex, Lies, and Videotape, was in [...]

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In Sex, Lies, and Videotape, Ann and Graham are talking in a café, and Ann tells Graham “something personal”:
Ann: I think that, um … I think that sex is overrated. I think that people place far too much importance on it. And I think that stuff about women wantin’ it just as bad as men [...]

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When talking to socialself people and decreasing realself people, the increasing realself person gets the sense that the conversation with them stops at the surface of their skin, and the person senses this because ontologically that is where the self of socialself people and decreasing realself people is located. But in talking with increasing realself [...]

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The following excerpt from an autobiographical sketch by DH Lawrence is probably my favorite passage of any I have ever read. Lawrence was sometimes described as “maladjusted,” but what this passage actually shows, at least to the ontologically insightful, is that he was sensitive enough to know that human existence is unacceptably wrong and needs [...]

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