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Ann: You can’t possibly trust him. He’s perverted.

March 23rd, 2010 · No Comments

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Tags: FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE · INCREASING DEGREES OF BEING · Movies · Ontological Friendship · Ontological Love · Realself-to-Realself · SEXUALITY · Sex · Sex Is a Realself Event · Sex Lies and Videotape · The Transition

Cynthia is aroused after filming

March 20th, 2010 · No Comments

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Tags: Ontological Friendship · Ontological Love · Realself-to-Realself · SEXUALITY · Sex · Sex Is a Realself Event · Sex Lies and Videotape

Ann: Graham, this is just so …

March 13th, 2010 · No Comments

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Tags: FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE · INCREASING DEGREES OF BEING · Ontological Friendship · Ontological Love · Realself-to-Realself · SEXUALITY · Sex · Sex Lies and Videotape

Ann and Graham: Sexual only when alone

March 11th, 2010 · No Comments

As with all increasing realself people, Ann and Graham in Sex, Lies, and Videotape express their current ontological thoughts and emotions through their sex lives. One example of their doing this is when they each say they are the most sexual when they are by themselves.
Ann tells her therapist:
Ann: I mean, I’m sure he probably [...]

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Tags: FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE · INCREASING DEGREES OF BEING · Movies · Ontological Fear · Ontological Friendship · Ontological Love · Realself-to-Realself · SEXUALITY · Sex · Sex Is a Realself Event · Sex Lies and Videotape · The Transition

Ann: I think that sex is overrated

March 7th, 2010 · No Comments

It’s very common for people who are increasing their degrees of realself to take a step forward, learn something new, and then use that new knowledge to examine other aspects of their lives. Ann does this in Sex, Lies, and Videotape, and these post about her will do the same.
Going back to the time when [...]

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Tags: FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE · INCREASING DEGREES OF BEING · Movies · Ontological Love · Realself-to-Realself · SEXUALITY · Sex · Sex Is a Realself Event · Sex Lies and Videotape · Socialself-to-Socialself · The Transition

Ann’s asked: Did you masturbate?

March 5th, 2010 · No Comments

In Sex, Lies, and Videotape, Ann is talking with her therapist, and she mentions that her husband has not been having as much sex with her as in the past. She continues:
Ann: I mean, I’m sure he probably wishes that I would initiate things once in a while, and I would, except for it just [...]

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Tags: FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE · INCREASING DEGREES OF BEING · Movies · Ontological Love · Realself-to-Realself · SEXUALITY · Sex · Sex Is a Realself Event · Sex Lies and Videotape · The Transition

Sex Is a Realself Event

March 1st, 2010 · No Comments

Quite a few people think sex is “just biological,” or “just physical,” or even “just chemical.” But as men and women increase their degrees of realself, they see that sex is actually linked inextricably to the realself.
Why is this? The main reason is probably that even though we can become alienated ontologically—we can fool ourselves [...]

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Tags: DECREASING DEGREES OF BEING · FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE · Good Alienation · Hating One's Inner Self · INCREASING DEGREES OF BEING · Ontological Fear · Ontological Friendship · RELIGION · Realself-to-Realself · SEXUALITY · Sex · THE ONTOLOGICAL WAR · The Culture War · The Transition

Ann: And, uh, we haven’t had sex. Right?

February 21st, 2010 · No Comments

In Sex, Lies, and Videotape, Ann and Graham are talking in a café, and Ann tells Graham “something personal”:
Ann: I think that, um … I think that sex is overrated. I think that people place far too much importance on it. And I think that stuff about women wantin’ it just as bad as men [...]

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Tags: FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE · INCREASING DEGREES OF BEING · Movies · Ontological Friendship · Ontological Love · Realself-to-Realself · SEXUALITY · Sex · Sex Is a Realself Event · Sex Lies and Videotape · Socialself-to-Socialself · The Best One Will Ever Be

Sex, Lies, and Videotape: An Ontological Assessment

January 31st, 2010 · No Comments

Recently I saw Steven Soderbergh’s 1989 film Sex, Lies, and Videotape for the first time. I’ve never paid much attention to movies in the past, but as much as I can recall now Sex, Lies is the most ontologically sensitive and insightful movie I have ever seen.
I’m going to use it as the framework to [...]

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Tags: FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE · Good Alienation · Hating One's Inner Self · INCREASING DEGREES OF BEING · Movies · Ontological Fear · Ontological Love · Realself-to-Realself · SEXUALITY · Sex · Sex Is a Realself Event · Sex Lies and Videotape · The Transition

Rape: An Ontological Assault Carried Out Sexually

March 6th, 2008 · No Comments

Last night on tv a woman on the program CSI: NY said about the man who had raped her: “He stole my soul.” This statement by her shows that she was sensitive ontologically, but she wasn’t insightful ontologically, and she needed to understand two important facts about her sexual assault.
First of all, in all of [...]

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Tags: Bad Alienation · FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE · Mental Illness · Realself-to-Realself · SEXUALITY · Sex · Sex Is a Realself Event · The Ego Boundary · The Transition